Wednesday, July 23, 2014
Reasons Your iPad May Be Running Out Of Storage Space
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Seasons Of Grace: Revealing The Blessings That Are Already There
What I love most about the summer is
how everything feels so comfortable. We are not sick week after week,
as seems to be the case during winter. We can choose to stay home and
relax in the comfort of the air conditioning or go somewhere fun to
refresh ourselves with water play. We enjoy veggies from grandma's
garden and lower prices on fruit from the market. There is an
abundance of activities, from picnics to parties, from swinging to
swimming.
But one night a week or so ago, I cuddled with Hannah and Abram while I read them a couple of stories, and when we finished, I didn't feel so rushed. I suddenly had the urge to sing, something I haven't done much of since they were babies. I went through several verses of Amazing Grace while both kids snuggled up against me. I stopped at one point and Abram drowsily said, “Mama...sing. Sing, mama.”
When
it gets cold, I feel like I go into hibernation for part of the year,
waiting for the world to thaw. But the winter months bring about a
different kind of peace – there are warm fires, Christmas lights,
hot tea, and cozy sweatpants. Each season has its highs and lows. And even if I start
to miss the warmth of summer, what sustains me throughout that freeze
is the memory of the time I spent in the sun – and the knowledge
that it will one day come again.
I try to remember
through all the season changes that attitude and perspective are what
make life, and after all the sorrow and heartache I've witnessed or
been apart of or read about, it seems impossible to NOT have a good
attitude, when I realize what could be.
I'm one of those people who plans road trips by mapping out the restaurants and hotels at the exits along the way. Road trips can be fun, but they can be so much more fun if approached with meticulous forethought, right? You could eat at the perfect diner, pump gas at the cheapest station, and never have an emergency pee stop as long as you know where all the rest areas are!
Except this is life, and it doesn't always go according to our best laid plans. I've mentioned one of these road trips before...the one where Hannah and I got really sick just as it began...and the urgent care we stopped at along the way was closed because the doctor had gone up to Alaska to birth babies (Yes, seriously – that's what the sign said)...and we got snowed in on the way to our destination AND on the way back...and our car battery died and had to be replaced.
I'm one of those people who plans road trips by mapping out the restaurants and hotels at the exits along the way. Road trips can be fun, but they can be so much more fun if approached with meticulous forethought, right? You could eat at the perfect diner, pump gas at the cheapest station, and never have an emergency pee stop as long as you know where all the rest areas are!
Except this is life, and it doesn't always go according to our best laid plans. I've mentioned one of these road trips before...the one where Hannah and I got really sick just as it began...and the urgent care we stopped at along the way was closed because the doctor had gone up to Alaska to birth babies (Yes, seriously – that's what the sign said)...and we got snowed in on the way to our destination AND on the way back...and our car battery died and had to be replaced.
Despite
all of that, it's still one of the best trips we've ever taken. We
encountered so much grace on that journey. My baby was sick, but I
learned to lean on my parental instincts a little more. We got stuck
in Moab, Utah, which is a simply beautiful,
quaint, majestic place to get snowed in. And the car battery died
literally steps away
from a mechanic shop.
We also got to
spend Christmas in Colorado with family. It was all worth it.
And yet I wouldn't
know that if I couldn't see it. That grace spills over into my life
day after day – it is always there, whether or not I choose to look
at it. And I suppose that's why I try to remember to look for it, and
why I tend to write about the better parts of motherhood on this
blog, or at least I have a habit of putting a happier spin on the
tough parts, and why I almost always try to offer encouragement or a
'happy ending' in everything I write about.
I
never, ever want to reach a place where I'm ignoring grace. We
need to grab hold of our blessings.
Sometimes I wonder if people think I'm too positive, too happy, too
annoyingly 'look on the bright side'. I will admit that I believe I
grew up facing situations that led me to develop that attitude as a
defense mechanism – but I'm grateful for it.
I'm
grateful to be living this life – to have precious moments to
capture, to have opportunities to fight for what I believe in, to
have comforts and joys and sorrows to share, and to have
relationships to build along the way.
I'm grateful for it because I don't always feel that way. No one does, not all the time.
In
fact what I tend to feel most of the time is a sense of trying to
find some quiet in the midst of a busy life. If I have a day when
there have been extra messes or extra stresses (which seems to happen
a lot when you have young children), I start to feel as though I'm
losing myself, and I feel rushed to get to the end of the day, when I
can find the quiet stillness again.I'm grateful for it because I don't always feel that way. No one does, not all the time.
But one night a week or so ago, I cuddled with Hannah and Abram while I read them a couple of stories, and when we finished, I didn't feel so rushed. I suddenly had the urge to sing, something I haven't done much of since they were babies. I went through several verses of Amazing Grace while both kids snuggled up against me. I stopped at one point and Abram drowsily said, “Mama...sing. Sing, mama.”
So much sweetness.
Abram ended up falling asleep in my arms, something he hasn't done in
months. It was a rare, still moment. And in it, I found grace.
I hope I can remember to appreciate all the seasons – all the storms, all the sunshine, and all the cold. There is good to be found in it all. There is grace to be found in it all. And the seasons are always changing.
I hope I can remember to appreciate all the seasons – all the storms, all the sunshine, and all the cold. There is good to be found in it all. There is grace to be found in it all. And the seasons are always changing.
Wednesday, July 2, 2014
Freedom of Religion - I Do Not Think It Means What You Think It Means
One day long ago in my high school
cafeteria, I was approached by several of my peers who asked if I
would like to pray with them before lunch. To be completely honest, I
didn't want to. I knew it would draw attention to me, and at that
time in my life, that was pretty much the last thing I wanted to do.
But in support of my friends and because of my belief that prayer is
always a good thing, I put my reservations aside and agreed to
participate.
I had it on the tip of my tongue to retort “FREE EXERCISE THEREOF”, but as I was accustomed to doing, I remained silent.
We held hands in a circle while one of
my friends led the short prayer, and then we began to return to our
seats. A group of students a couple of tables over was eyeing us as
though we'd just slaughtered a calf in the middle of the lunchroom.
“Separation of church and state!” one of them called out.
I had it on the tip of my tongue to retort “FREE EXERCISE THEREOF”, but as I was accustomed to doing, I remained silent.
I'm not quite as content to remain
silent as I used to be.
That was my first memorable experience
with anti-Christian zealots, but there have been numerous encounters
since. In college we argued over whether or not a student
organization should be allowed to put up a Christmas tree in the
student center. Of course it should, I said. That isn't
infringing on anyone's rights. A girl responded, Oh, yeah? How
about I go on down there and light a Menorah?
Go ahead, I said.
See, I'm all for other religions having
rights too. That's the great thing about freedom – it allows you to
live by the principles that you choose to follow rather than allowing
someone else to make those choices for you. This includes running a
company that you own according to your personal values – like
giving employees Sundays off, paying them significantly more than the
minimum wage, or not providing them with benefits that you believe to be immoral.
Ah
yes, Hobby Lobby. Corporations are not humans, you
say. They don't have rights. I'm sure the thousands of
business owners who have shed blood, sweat, and tears over their
life's work would disagree with you. The court made the right call on
this one. Women have not been denied birth control, and real-life,
soul-carrying human beings, who also happen to own companies, have
not been denied moral autonomy.
But this is the problem that arises
when you start creating more and more laws, more and more
restrictions, more and more mandates. You have to start figuring out
where to draw the lines. And you end up with lines drawn all over the
sand until the tide inevitably comes in and washes them all away.
Religious freedom is so important that
it is the first amendment to our Constitution. It is a right that our
founding fathers saw fit to put first, but too many people
misunderstand it when they cry 'separation of church and state!' That
separation not only ensures that you can not be forced to practice a
religion, but also guarantees the rights of those who do.
Even so, there are plenty of people who don't think I should have that right and work tirelessly to ensure that I am denied it, little by little, with each passing year. Every June I hear the same story – another graduate who 'shocked' people by deviating from his pre-approved commencement speech. What was so scandalous about his drafts that didn't make the cut? Why, because Christian ideology is taboo, of course. Quote Gandhi all you want, but Jesus Christ? No way. Sure, you can reference Buddha, but those red letters in the New Testament? Sorry pal, that's offensive.
Even so, there are plenty of people who don't think I should have that right and work tirelessly to ensure that I am denied it, little by little, with each passing year. Every June I hear the same story – another graduate who 'shocked' people by deviating from his pre-approved commencement speech. What was so scandalous about his drafts that didn't make the cut? Why, because Christian ideology is taboo, of course. Quote Gandhi all you want, but Jesus Christ? No way. Sure, you can reference Buddha, but those red letters in the New Testament? Sorry pal, that's offensive.
Keep it in your churches, they
say. I have the right to not have to see/hear it, they say.
Idiots who believe in a thousands-year-old book of fairy tales,
they imply, and sometimes go ahead and say.
There is no respect for beliefs in
those comments, no understanding of basic rights. But they have the
right to think them and say them. They have as much of a right to
shout their words from the rooftops as I do to say 'Christ is Lord'.
(And if you think that getting rid of
proselytizing sounds like a good idea, try living in a country where
it's outlawed.)
I am a Christian, and I have no power
to force you to become one too. And I wouldn't want to because I
value freedom in your life as well. But if you seek to pass laws that
will impede my ability to live according to what I believe is right,
then you must ask yourself – which side of freedom are you really
on?
Not all Christians agree with Hobby
Lobby's stance on contraceptives. Not everyone agrees with the words
of a Christian high school student's speech. But as Thomas
Jefferson pointed out, we can agree that 'religion is a matter which
lies solely between Man & his God, that he owes account to none
other for his faith or his worship'.
If we are denied the right to run our
businesses according to our consciences or prohibited from freely
speaking about our faith, then to whom are we actually being held
accountable?
I stay silent no more, because I worry
about what someone will say to my kids in their high school
cafeteria. Or worse yet, I worry that they will never have the
opportunity for someone to say something to them at all.
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